The Power of Taking Action in Our Vaginismus Healing Journey

One of the most difficult parts of living with vaginismus is not being able to take action.

I lived with this condition for almost 15 years. It took me so long to heal my vaginismus, not because it is impossible or difficult to do, but rather because I struggled to take the first steps of action towards curing my condition.

I chose to deny vaginismus altogether, I didn’t even read anything about it. So, if you made it here and are reading this blog post now, congratulations, dear!

This means that you are one step closer to curing your condition than you were before!

Of course, we need to do more than this to cure our condition. In this blog, we’re going to uncover the importance of taking action to heal vaginismus, because it is curable my dear friend, even if you don’t believe it yet, even if you might not believe in yourself at the moment, I KNOW THAT YOU’LL OVERCOME IT.

It’s not a belief or a wish nor a dream. It is KNOWING. A deep knowing which says, “ I know from the bottom of my heart that you can overcome this condition, cause if I could do it, so can you!”

But before we get to that, are you new here? Then you’ll have to check out these other helpful blogs that I’ve written to help you overcome your condition.

and of course, you should join our EXCLUSIVE Facebook Community “Yes We Can Cure Vaginismus Together” by clicking here!

Oh and, you can download here your FREE Vaginismus Cure Guide based on my personal experience and research!

So let’s begin.

Imagine that you have a kid- whether you want to have a kid or not, it doesn’t matter, – and your child is at home. You had left them there for only 10 min but when you return, you see that your house is on fire!

What would you do? Would you

feel worried about how you have possibly lost everything?
feel sorry for yourself?
overthink without taking action?

Or,

Would you take the plunge right away and do everything you could to save your child from the burning building?

If you didn’t freeze from the shocking moment, I bet you would go with the second one. The one where you take action to save what you can from the burning building.

The action requires no overthinking, no stories which need to be created in our mind to get lost in, just focus on solving the problem at that very moment.

Let’s imagine that as you ran inside the house to save your child’s life you saw that they were stuck under something.

What would you do?

Would you stop to overthink what your actions should be or would you just commit 100% of yourself to do your best and just try to lift the thing up to free your child?

What would you do?

I want you to pause here, close your eyes and visualize this situation and your actions

I bet that you would try to free your child.

Let’s say that you couldn’t lift the weight off of the child and that they were still stuck inside the burning house;

would you

get absorbed in your guilt and shame?
distract yourself with pity for yourself?
slide into a depression?

Or,

Would you look around for tools to help you lift the thing up so that you can save your kid’s life?

I can bet again that you would choose the second option, right?

So think of this as our potential, dear!

But hang on a minute, if we have the potential to be able to take fast action in life; then WHY

are we not able to implement it in our healing journey to find a gynecologist to get the diagnosis with vaginismus?
do we postpone finding another doctor when we don’t feel a connection with the one that we have already worked with?
are we finding excuses to avoid investing in healing our condition and getting convenient support?

Avoiding the work needed for healing ourselves is a life and death issue, my dear friend, but just because we are not in a burning building it doesn’t mean that we are not burning! Here’s the thing: we are focusing on too many different things that do not involve taking action!

When we don’t take steps to heal ourselves, we are allowing ourselves to suffer from the condition that is burning us!

That’s why we need to put a deliberate effort into overcoming vaginismus and putting out the fire of suffering!

How do we find the motivation to take action toward overcoming our vaginismus?

That’s a fair question, my dear!

Here are 3 important rules that can support us in taking action:

Note #1: Being committed to whatever we do is one of the keys to taking action towards healing our vaginismus

Are you a committed person, dear? Do you try to do your best in your daily life?

Or do you quit when any challenge reveals itself?

We’ve got to be 100% committed to healing our vaginismus, if we are not, becoming aware of this lack of commitment and what triggers this attitude and the behaviors which occur as a result is an important habit to investigate and transform.

Note #2: Finding supportive communities will help us feel like we are not alone

We tend to feel alone in this journey, dear.

Many people who don’t understand vaginismus ( and even some doctors) might say;

Once you find someone to fall in love with then you will relax and have pain-free sex!
Drink a glass of wine or two, then you’ll be able to relax,
Just focus on relaxing!

And this is how the years will pass by from 1 year to 5, from ten to the next twenty years of your life! All the while feeling alone in your journey, feeling as though you have to wait, postpone, or ignore your condition because nobody understands it enough to help you!

So finding communities of people also suffering from vaginismus and experiencing the same healing journey as you will empower you to feel less alone, and help us to feel heard and normal in our healing process. Joining these communities will help motivate us to take further action for healing our condition, through the supportive siblinghood that you will find with these groups.

Note #3: Getting the right support to help us be consistent in our vaginismus healing progress

If we find ourselves struggling with healing our condition – which is totally NORMAL- we can face losing years to the suffering that comes from avoiding our healing journey. So it is vital that we:

Get convenient support from a person with whom we feel a connection with,
Say yes to new opportunities,
Invest İn ourselves,

The hardest part of our healing journey is dealing with our own with consistency alone while also dealing with the difficult emotions vaginismus triggers within us.

The challenging emotions of this condition can be too hard to overcome and can lead to us:

feeling like a failure,
feeling sorry for ourselves,
or feeling like we don’t deserve to be happy or even alive!

When I was living with the fear of painful sex, it became harder to believe that I would ever fit a HUGE PENIS in me, as the year passed.

If I knew someone who had been through a similar path with mine and told me that I would overcome it too, then I wouldn’t wait for 11 years to take action, dear.

That’s why I do what I do now with helping women overcoming their vaginismus!

Now, my dear, I clearly see and know that we have huge potential!

Let’s use it!

Before I learned mindfulness, I was living in fear of painful sex, it became harder to believe that I would ever fit a huge penis inside of me, but as time has passed, I have learned that what we are telling ourselves are just thoughts, not the FACTS, dear!

But here is the thing: We need to get closer to our thoughts and emotions, then learn how to deal with them. That’s why I include mindfulness teachings and practices in my healing vaginismus programs!

These are the tools you need to cultivate within yourself to practice conscious healing.

If you didn’t have any doubt in yourself and if you had 100 times more courage than you do right now, what would your first action look like?

Whatever your answer to this question is my dear, can be a breakthrough in your life!

Let’s do it, dear! We can do it!

If you want to connect to discuss how you can overcome your vaginismus condition with me, send an email to petek@yeswecancure.com so that we can see how I can support you in this journey.

”One Day or Day One! It’s your decision.”

You can download my free vaginismus cure guide from here if you haven’t yet.

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Let’s meet there. Let’s grow together.

E-mail: petek@yeswecancure.com