Living with vaginismus has such a massive impact on us. We adapt many behaviors automatically, without knowing: Comparing ourselves to others is one of those! The bad news is if we don’t become aware of these behaviors and what they are leading to, vaginismus can easily be our suffering for years. The good news is if we can notice them mindfully and friendly, we can grow from this while healing our vaginismus. It’s hard to
I understand that it’s hard to work on our vaginismus healing journey consistently while we are constantly repeating ourselves that we can’t overcome it! There is a powerful voice chattering in our minds over and over and over again: “You can’t do it!” “You won’t have a family.” “Look at you: You even can’t consummate your marriage!” “You won’t have a NORMAL relationship!” “You are NOT NORMAL!” Can you relate to any of them, dear?
Hey dear, let’s be honest; living with vaginismus is not easy! And often, getting lost with our thoughts, especially when we are in a low mood can be very unhelpful to us, right? At first, it seems as though they are compelling thoughts and can even make us feel crazy without realizing it, what a paradox! 😊 That’s what we are going to uncover today: the relationship between low moods and our thoughts and how
Have you ever looked at your pain closely?? What is pain? How do you react to it? Is it the pain itself or the belief that it will be painful, which makes you stop moving forward? Today, we will take a closer look at pain; we’ll identify our reactions to it and how to transform these reactions, which ultimately hold us back from any penetration attempts while living with vaginismus. But before we get to
Procrastination is what we tend to end up doing when we are living with vaginismus. We postpone everything from finding another gynecologist who is more understanding and caring, to say YES to new opportunities which will help us move forward in our healing journey, to consistently dilating. Do any of these resonate with you? Think about the impact of postponing things when it comes to healing vaginismus; the effects can span years! That’s what we
