I think feeling more balanced and grounded is what we need most these days during the COVID-19 lockdown. 

We need to maintain our inner balance because especially when we are living with vaginismus, we tend to get lost into our thoughts and try to deal with constantly changing up-and-down moods. So, it can be more difficult to deal with everything happening in the world right now.

Can you relate? I can, because I’ve been there. I lived with vaginismus for a quite long time, and now, after 15 years I am cured of it! You can see my story here.

I believe every woman living with this challenging condition can overcome it, just as I did. 

Today, I want to talk about 6 ways to maintain and implement balance into our daily lives.

So, what are these 6 ways?

Let’s begin!

I kindly invite and encourage you to get a pen and paper or wherever you’d like to get notes on and answer the questions that I ask you below.

Way #1: Creating a morning routine

It helps a lot to start your day with a calm mindset.

Think about what your morning routine would look like. It might be 10 minutes in total or 30 minutes, however long you’d like to create it, it’s totally up to you.

I recently joined a Facebook Group called Miracle Morning Challenge which encourages expanding my morning routine with the help of the feeling of togetherness found in the group. If you want, you can check it out, and join us.

There are many options to implement into your morning routine such as: 

✨Sitting for meditation

It doesn’t matter whether it’s 2, 5 or 10 minutes! It’s not about how long you sit, it’s all about the experience. Meditation creates space for us to experiment being in silence.

✨Affirmations

These are positive statements that help us reinforce the qualities that we’d like to gain. It’s very beneficial though to remember what qualities are valuable for us and also very empowering to repeat them over and over again, on a regular basis.

✨Reading/Listening

Reading empowering, insightful or inspiring books or listening podcasts can be very helpful and uplifting. 

I’d recommend you “Insight Meditation” by Joseph Goldstein to read or listen to any teachers’ talk in freely offering insight teachings site. 

✨Journaling 

Scribing what you have achieved recently would raise your awareness of your potential and would be very helpful to the practice of doing enough.

✨Singing a mantra

Chanting vibrations with concentration helps to reduce the adrenaline level and cortisol and calms the mind.

Choose from any or all of them. 

Which of them would be a part of your morning routine?

Way #2 Connecting with our loved ones

When we look into our lives, we can see that we are always looking for a connection. It’s actually in our genes to be a part of a tribe, to feel a bond with other beings. (because we have this in our genes), it is totally normal to crave this connection from time to time.

Especially during these trying times while we are practicing social distancing and it’s much harder to see our loved ones.

But you know what! Luckily we have the technology!

We can set gatherings via Zoom, WhatsApp, Skype or whatever medium we’d like to see our loved ones virtually 😊

So, when would you like to gather with your loved ones? 

How often, and who would they be?

Way #3 Sharing our difficult feelings with loved ones

It’s a very important habit though, speaking out about our feelings when they challenge us. 

Sharing itself is very helpful not only to reflect on ourselves more but also on how to overcome those feelings. It can be very liberating. 

As they say, “the more we resist, the more it persists”. So let “it” out helps us to get free from it.

So, who are you going to talk to whenever you have difficult emotions such as fear, anxiety, or worry?

Way #4 Moving our bodies: Exercise

It can be a part of our morning routine but doesn’t necessarily have to be. You can set a time for exercise during your day preferably at the same time every day. It can be yoga, or pilates, or functional training or just push ups-pull ups. 

If you are not an active person, there are plenty of apps and resources on the internet to help you build your own movement series. 

So, which exercise would you like to choose to practice every day?

Way #5 Taking more in control of our lives

Again, I’d like to emphasize that especially during these days of the coronavirus, we are dealing with lots of uncertainty. So we tend to feel like we are out of control of our own lives. 

We need to feel that WE have the control!

So setting a small, do-able and reasonable goal for your coming day then accomplishing whatever you set, is going to help you feel that you achieved something.

I can’t stress here enough, that the goal should be DO-ABLE. 

I’m not talking about the goals of your yearly, monthly or weekly plans😊

It can be something as simple as doing your laundry.

And believe me, finding these goals is easy because we achieve so much without realizing it.

So, let’s create something empowering out of it!

What is your goal for tomorrow?

Way #6 Limiting the time spent reading news

We definitely need to reduce our time spent reading or watching the news, because they are just wiring negativity in our minds.

We can get enough information from spending just 1h a day on the news.

What is your limited time for reading or watching the news?

Now here we are! What were your answers to all these questions?

So, let’s start NOW.

I assure you that you’ll feel much more balanced as you practice these regular habits.

It’s time to act now! Planning accordingly and practicing is the key to the path of maintaining balance. 

I can’t emphasize enough on how this is going to positively impact your healing/curing vaginismus journey.

The more we maintain balance within us, the more we’ll have the capacity to see things more clearly with a calm mindset. 

And as we feel centered, we’ll tend to focus on continuing what we plan to do for healing, rather than losing our motivation to work on it.

So again, what are your answers?

 

“By learning to remain balanced in the face of everything experienced inside, one develops detachment towards all that one encounters in external situations as well.” Goenka

 

 

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E-mail: petek@yeswecancure.com

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